Building Confidence from Failure


One of the strangest things, to me, about the human psyche is that almost everyone is afraid of failure.
Nearly everyone is afraid of being laughed at, looked down upon, falling flat on their face or having someone call you a loser. This, to an extent, is understandable, because these are all not particularly nice things.
But the real fact of the matter is, with the right attitude, failure can be your best friend. In fact, if you would ask any successful person, they would unequivocally tell you that you cannot achieve success without tasting some form of failure along the way. And how you handle that failure will ultimately decide your destiny.
Follow these insights to get the most out of your failure and come out from your low points with more confidence from ever before.
You learn more from your mistakes
Embrace your errors, for without them you cannot grow. Getting something right is great, but you do not learn anything from it other than what you already know is true. But getting something wrong means that you now have the opportunity to learn something new and get it right the second time. Failures allow us to improve ourselves, which is essentially what life is about – a journey of self-improvement.
Never make the same mistake twice
Every time you get something wrong, or fail in doing something, you need to tell yourself – “I’ll never make this same mistake again.” And – this is important – you need to analyse what went wrong so that you can ensure that you can keep your promise to yourself. Without truly understanding the reasons for you failure, you cannot grow, nor can you ensure the mistake doesn’t repeat itself.
Don’t play the blame game
Many people tend to throw blame unto others by saying “It was his fault for messing it up” or “Everything could have gone smoothly if it wasn’t for her.” Playing the blame game gets no one anywhere, especially in the workplace, and serves only to further disappoint your superiors and create hostility among co-workers.
Focus instead on what could have been done to alleviate against such problems resurfacing. For example, if a certain individual didn’t perform his or her duty, try to give them another task to carry out next time or delegate an extra person to help them out. Always remember, you cannot turn back time, but you can make the most of whatever time is left.
There’s nowhere to go but up
One of the best things about failing is that it usually just can’t get any worse. And as long as you keep trying, you are bound to eventually succeed. And then all your failures will be nothing but the memories of the past.
With these concepts of failure in mind, you stand to gain more confidence from mistakes that what you lose. And as the eternal saying goes, “what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger!”

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